Passion Series #2: The F Word

 

 

Here’s the deal.

Passion is Love.

Love is the opposite of Fear.

Love and Fear cannot co-exist.

Fear is a big ‘F*** You’ to Passion.

How fearful are you? How much does fear rule you? Are you cowering in the dark corners of your life, trembling with fear, controlled by all the ‘what-if’ messages?

How loud is the fear voice in your head? Are your thoughts focused on those heart-stopping, chest-constricting lies that have you convinced that it’s better to stay small?

Don’t quit your job, even though you hate it. What if you never find another one? 

Don’t go on that blind date. What if he’s just another loser?

Don’t say what you really think. What if you offend her/him/anyone?

Don’t do that/say that/go there. What if people judge you?

Don’t buy a gym membership. What if people laugh at your muffin top?

Don’t go to yoga. What if you make a fool of yourself?

Don’t, don’t, don’t.

That’s the Fear message.

Stay small. Don’t risk. Hide. Conform. Censor. Edit. Be quiet. Don’t dream. Don’t do. Don’t. Just don’t.

Staying in the Fear Place will slowly kill you. It is a slow suicide that drains away your passion, drop by drop, until there’s nothing left but the Fear. Your life becomes a constant maneuvering around the Fear. You must avoid anything that might make you feel afraid. Life becomes very small. The box you live inside, the four walls you have constructed around yourself in order to avoid fear, starts to suffocate. It constricts until you can no longer breathe, feel, or move.

It’s a prison of your own making.

But.

Guess what?

There’s an antidote to Fear.

It’s Love.

Like I said, Love and Fear cannot co-exist. If you are living in Fear, there is no Love.

If you are living in Love, there is no Fear.

Love shifts your energy.

Love trumps Fear, every time.

Love is the key to your prison door.

All those fears? It’s just that scared, little YOU, that three year old, or five year old, or eight year old you, who’s scared and unsure.

Love her.

She just needs to know that it’s gonna be okay, and you’re the one who needs to tell her that.

It’s gonna be okay. I’ve got you. It’s safe.

Scared to take a risk? Love on that fear. It’s just a part of you. Bring your love energy to her.

Stop resisting the fear.

What you resist persists.

Instead, acknowledge the fear. It’s okay. It’s a part of you.

Now bring your Love to the fear. Tell that scared little girl that it’s okay. You’ve got this.

Now here comes the fun part:

Feel the fear and do it anyways.

That’s right. The fear will probably never fully disappear. It’s just a part of the human existence.

But you get to choose how much power that fear will have over you.

You can choose to notice the fear, allow it to be there. Love on it. Reassure it.

Then get your sweet ass out into the world and do it anyways.

Then the fun stuff starts to happen!

Life will become juicy. Rich. Exciting. Thrilling.

And, yes….Passionate.

As you bring your Love antidote to the Fear, you will begin to step out and do the stuff that you would never do before.

Because Fear.

But now, Love.

Love says “Yeah it’s scary. I might fail. I don’t know what will happen. But guess what? That’s okay. It’s okay to feel that way, but you, Fear, can’t have your way. I’m gonna do this anyways, because I want to. And whatever happens, it’s gonna be great. I’m gonna learn, and grow, and stretch bigger. So let’s go!”

That’s when you’ll feel Passion. That’s the magic moment when your life begins to change.

Excitement. Thrills. Adventure. Failure. Success. Passion. Disappointment. Joy. Sorrow. Romance. Travel. Enlightenment. Courage.

It all comes down to choice. Choose Love. Choose to allow Love in, and choose to act in spite of the Fear.

It’s up to you. Choose Love and never look back.